More than two decades after his death, Carl Menger will be remembered for the way he and his wife met.
In an interview with The Hill, he discussed his marriage to Carmen Electra and the way it went down.
Menger, whose wife died of AIDS in 1985, died in Washington on March 26, 2018.
He died of natural causes at age 88.
We spoke with him by phone Monday about the way his life was shaped and what he’s learned about the importance of being honest and straightforward in relationships.
What was the first thing you did when you got married?
We did it in the middle of a funeral and it was a very private thing.
The only other person I ever did it with was my father-in-law, who had been married for 15 years.
I had a very big, deep secret.
It was just something I didn’t want anyone to know about.
Why didn’t you tell them?
It was very important to me.
I just wanted to be left alone and didn’t have anything to tell my parents.
What did you think of your life as a married man?
It’s a very good life.
I’ve done a lot of good.
I love being married.
The whole idea of being married is not as nice as it sounds.
When I got married, I had no idea.
The way I thought about it was, when I was a young man, it was really a very bad idea to have a wife and a child.
And it didn’t seem right.
It seemed so much better to have an older man to be with.
How was it that you fell in love?
My wife was beautiful, but she was very different from the rest of us.
There were other women around and I had some very good friends and we were very successful.
But we were all different.
I thought I was so much more like her than she thought I should be.
And I felt like I was falling in love with her too.
I didn’st really know who I was.
I knew that my mother had died and that my father had died.
I felt I needed to be close to her and that I needed the help of someone who was different.
But I just thought she was the perfect woman.
How did you decide you wanted to get divorced?
I was living in Florida, in an old apartment, and my wife and I went out to dinner and she went upstairs and she told me she wanted to marry me.
My wife said, “I’m sorry, but we don’t have a choice.”
She was pregnant.
I said, What do you mean you don’t?
She said, I’ve always been interested in men.
She was very clear about that.
So I thought, Well, if she doesn’t want to marry, it’s OK.
But if she wants to, it makes me feel better.
What about your parents?
They weren’t very happy with me.
And so I was really upset about it.
They had never had a relationship.
They were very strict about it and I didn